Thanksgiving is one of the few times when our relatives gather for much-needed time together and to honor our family traditions. It’s also the perfect time to delve into the mine of our collective memories, especially those of our grandmothers and grandfathers. There’s nothing better than lighting up our children’s faces with stories of our own childhood escapades, and wouldn’t it be wonderful if they shared those stories someday with their own children?
Celebrate With Have the Talk of a Lifetime
Have the Talk of a Lifetime brings families together to talk about important memories and a loved one’s life story. These details can be important later, when it’s time to memorialize that person. What better way to honor our loved one than sharing their life events and experiences that were the most meaningful to them? These memories will also provide deep comfort in times of grief and healing. Thanksgiving provides an ideal setting for asking questions and sharing information in a way that’s natural, surrounded by family of all ages.
How Do I Initiate the Talk of a Lifetime?
People tend to open up more easily about their lives if something sparks a memory, so it might be a good idea to have each member of the family bring a few old photos or mementos to Thanksgiving dinner. These things could be passed around the table, used in a guessing game, or maybe hung on a bulletin board for everyone to see. One person can take notes, so important names and dates can be documented. Even better, make audio or video recordings of stories and conversations. You can also hold a question and answer session, asking everyone, or perhaps the eldest people there, things like:
What achievement in your life are you most proud of?
Tell me about what summers were like for you growing up?
If you could go anywhere you wanted tomorrow, where would it be?
What advice from your parents or grandparents was important to you?
You could even have each person at the table write a question!
Hold Onto the Memories
Once you’ve celebrated Thanksgiving with some insights from your Talk of a Lifetime, organize them in a way that preserves everything so you can find it again. If someone in your family is tech-savvy, creating a blog or family website to post information, photos, videos, and audio recordings are an easy way to store everything without taking up a lot of space. Handwritten notes and photos albums work, too. This doesn’t have to be a chore! Connecting generations of your family and keeping memories alive is fun, and it brings everyone closer together. It also makes memorializing someone’s life more meaningful and less overwhelming.
If you have any questions, please visit www.talkofalifetime.org to find a Have the Talk of a Lifetime expert near you! 73% of people who have used the Have the Talk of a Lifetime materials would recommend a funeral professional associated with the program. These funeral professionals are the best resource when it comes to planning a meaningful memorial service.