T.M.I. verse T.L.I.
By Don Calhoun, CM Monument Builders of North AmericaDo you ever have someone tell you: “That’s T.M.I. Too Much Information”? Unfortunately, I hear it with extreme regularity, at the checkout register at Sam’s Club, in a meeting with a client, in the middle of my physical exam with my Doctor, or even during confession with my local priest! Somehow in my life’s journey, I decided that it was best to be open and honest with myself and others. “Have the Talk of a Life Time” means that we must have a certain degree of courage and bravery in bringing up important subjects with our loved ones. While it may seem that we could be labeled an “odd duck” if we don’t play along with the traditional societal norms of digging deep in our relationships, we should challenge the logic. We don’t all have to behave in predictable ways, to be just like everyone else, and blend in with the flock. Each of us has it with our capacity to grow in our relationships. Our lives are like an original piece of art. We are meant to paint the masterpiece of our authentic self, and not some cheap imitation, knock off version. This is true in terms of our parents, siblings or our friends. We need to start by not being afraid of fully discovering and revealing who we really are. When we do that, we will realize that we will always want to learn and discover more about our loved ones. T.M.I. should not be a part of our love language for those we really care about. “Have the Talk of a Life Time” requires the ability to listen, probe and grow deeper into our most treasured and meaningful relationships. Without that desire, we will be left with a life of T.L.I. Too Little Information? There would be no greater tragedy that to leave this earth with no meaningful connection to our family and friends. The world is our paint brush and there is an original piece of art that needs to be revealed in all.